it’s lighter if we carry it together…
Last week I started sharing my thoughts on friendship. Friendship isn’t always convenient or comfortable – but it is always worth the effort. When 2012 started I didn’t really make any “resolutions,” but I had a few goals in my mind of things that I would like to see in my life during this year. I wanted to spend more time with my family, I wanted to get more involved in things that I’m passionate about, and I wanted to focus more on helping to carry the burdens of the people around me. When the year started I was ready to jump in and do these things – and then things got a little more complicated. All of a sudden I found myself facing a tragedy that I was not ready for. After I received the news of our loss I found myself overwhelmed by the heavy weight of my burden. My heart hurt, my body ached, my mind was tormented – how were we in this place again? And then the reinforcements stepped in – friends and family that were willing to take steps for us when we were to weak, to hold up our arms and remind us to breathe. Our days were brightened by encouraging words and thoughtful gestures. The people surrounding us stepped in and helped carried our burdens. I will be forever grateful.
I remember the first time I truly began to understand this concept. In college I was so fortunate to be a part of an incredible group of women that taught me what it meant to be truly vulnerable and to carry the burdens of the people that you loved. These ladies lived out these principles every day and taught me to do the same thing. Some call it friendship, some call it sisterhood - I call it rare. This type of friendship – this type of love is scattered and often forgotten in the bustle of our day to day lives. We forget that it is actually something that we have been called to do. Our relationships should be marked by this love – this love should be demonstrated through our actions.
“Burdens” aren’t always a dark tragedy or a life changing circumstance. A friend can be burdened by a difficult day or a frustrating situation – taking the time to talk through that trial or distract them with a impromptu coffee break may be exactly what they need. Even something simple as card or a phone call can demonstrate your love and remind them that they are not carrying this burden alone.
I want to be this kind of friend. I want to bear the burdens of the people around me and remind them that they are never walking alone. I am so thankful for the dear people in my life who have taught me this – who have showed me this – who live this out every single day. You have made an impact, you have made a difference – I am forever grateful.